Tag: grieving

  • In search of Darwin – National Geographic “Expedition” to the Galapagos Islands

    My wife and I had a long list of places to visit in our “golden years” – mine was a bit more on the adventurous side, while her interests were more around culture, food and tennis. But we had a lot of overlap, and the Galápagos Islands were one of those. So, as I started to peruse the many tour catalogs I had received, it was an easy pick for me. We had looked at National Geographic before – Jan was not into cutting costs/comforts, and the NG/Lindblad trips had it all. So, I signed up for a fall trip, leaving plenty of time to start gearing up!

    National Geographic/Lindblad tours are quite a bit different from traditional cruises – their ships are all relatively small, so there are fewer guests, only one dining area, no shows or casinos, no pools or playgrounds for children – just the basics, but these are all extremely well done. The focus is all on exploring the destination, and providing the tools and guidance you need to get the most out of the experience. The ships are packed with zodiac boats for getting you out to shore for hiking, snorkeling gear, kayaks, paddle boards – pretty much everything you need for the adventure. The staff includes National Geographic photographers, naturalists, and locals who know the culture and history of where you are going. They cover all the bases.

    So, off I went to Ecuador (they own the islands) for my first solo trip. I was OK with the travel, since I was used to that from years of consulting, but absolutely petrified about being on a small ship, with 84 perfect strangers. I knew I was going to have to walk up to a table in the dining area and ask “May I join you?” What if they said no? My fears were totally unfounded. Pretty much anyone on a NG trip is there for the same reasons, be it photography, snorkeling, hiking, and for the most part, enjoy making new acquaintences. By the time we boarded the ship on Isla San Cristobal, I had already met 5 or 6 couples, and a few others who were interested in photography. After a day or two on board, I was usually invited to join groups for lunch or dinner rather than having to wander around to find somewhere to sit. 

    The problem with touring the Galapagos Islands is that there are at the very least 11 islands worth visiting, spread out over an extremely large chunk of ocean. You have to cross the equator to visit a few of them. And you can spend more than a day on each of these islands – they really are amazing. This particular trip covered the eastern islands, which included two of the inhabited islands. The largest island, with the active volcanos, is included in a different tour. I’ll catch that the next time I go there.

    I could probably write a few pages about this trip, but that was not my intent for starting this blog, so I’ll just cover a few highlites of the trip:

    If you are familiar with Charles Darwin, and his Origin of Species, you know about the finches, and the variations of the same species found on different islands. Not much has changed other than the extinction of many of the animals due to human presence. Ecuador manages the islands as a national park, so there are very strict rules on tourism, and who gains entries to  the remote islands. This is not a place to party on the beach. Because of these rules and the lack of more recent human activities (whaling, hunting, etc) the animals have no fear of us, and basically ignore you as your group meanders along trails. It is bizarre. On one hike, we were able to gather around a female sea lion feeding her newly born pup…from a foot or two away. Birds nest on the trails, and completely ignore you as you step over or around the nest. Large iguanas just about sit still as you walk right up to them to snap a photo. At one lagoon, an immature flamingo wandered through our group, on the way to the beach.  I was sitting on a rock at one stop, photographing a pelican, when a big sea lion waddled up to me, stopped a few feet away and checked me out, then waddled away. I’ve never quite seen anything like that before. It is a birder’s paradise – there are so many species of birds, and it is so easy to spot and photograph them. Here are a few shots of some of the beasties we saw:

    Yup…they even have flamingos there
    Mother Sea Lion and newborn pup next to trail
    Waddling over to say Hi
    Nap time…
    Sea iguanas, watching us walk by
    Blue Footed Boobie
    Brown Pelican
    Red Footed Boobie babies
    Blue Footed Boobie baby

    The tour also included a stop at the Darwin Center on Isla Santa Cruz – this is one of the locations where they breed the giant tortoises. We also visited a “ranch” where the tortoises are wild, doing there thing. Which is basically lumbering slowly around, eating grass, and then fertilizing on the other end. Rubber boots are a must.

    Racing along in the wild…
    Doing what they do best….eating. No photos of the other end

    We had a few snorkel opportunities on the trip – the water is quite cold there, even with the proximity to the equator, thanks to the Humbolt current passing through from Antarctica. At a couple of locations, we were lucky enough to have visitations by playful juvenile sea lions. They just enjoy showing off. We also saw penguins in the water (and on the shore). 

    Just hanging around…

    And finally, here is the ship, sitting in the middle of an enormous volcanic caldera (flooded obviously)

    Home for a week – Endeavor
    One of many great sunsets

    The trip was fantastic, and I survived being on my own for 10 days. I did learn something else about travel from my wife. First or business class is the only way to fly. Worth every penny. It takes the pain out of flying.

    One sad note from this trip. A few days into the trip, I received a message from my sister-in-law (they had Wifi on the ship) that my brother was in the hospital. I had just spoken with him a day or two before, while I was waiting for my next flight in Miami. Two days later, he passed from stage 4 liver cancer. Ouch. The crew let me use the ships satellite phone to make some calls, and were so helpful the next few days. I decided to keep on with the activities, since my brother was so excited about me being on this trip – he and his wife were master birders, and had been to the Galapagos Islands before. Later that day, I was sitting alone below the bridge, just meditating, when I noticed what looked like the Bat Signal in shadow, moving around on the deck. I looked up to see a squadron of frigate birds, riding the air wave from the bow of the ship (we were moving to the next location)

    I took that as a sign to keep enjoying the trip.

  • First trip – Into Thin Air

     No, I did not try to climb Everest on my first foray into this new life of mine. After coming out of what amounted to shock after my wife passed, I had plenty to do in terms of busy work – there are so many things you have to take care of when your spouse dies, aside from the obvious (funerals). It’s exhausting. All of these while you are suffering through waves of smothering grief. OK…this is getting way too sad. At any rate, later in the summer, I decided it was time to get out of Dodge for a while, and accepted an invitation to stay with our close friends back in Colorado (Denver suburbs). My wife and I lived there for decades – it has always been home for us – we always seemed to return there when work forced us to live elsewhere. 

    Through the many years we lived there, I was always drawn towards alpine sports – we were both obsessive skiers, and took the alpine obsession to a higher level – rock climbing, back country skiing, ice climbing, and hiking the Colorado Fourteener’s (14K peaks). We lived at over 5000′, and I spent countless hours at much higher elevations. Heck, even our golf trips were at ski resorts. Needless to say, we were both well acclimated to life in thin air.

    Whatever that actually means from a physiological viewpoint (more red blood cells), that seems to last for quite some time, even when you move to sea level. I found that the altitude was not a problem when we moved away for a year or two. 

    Now fast forward to September, 2024. I had been living at almost sea level for about four years. I flew into DIA, drove out to my friends house in Aurora, and scheduled a number of hikes for the week, starting with a drive up Mount Evans (Bluesky now). That’s a 14,000′ peak, a state park, just West of Denver. You can drive up pretty close to the summit, and then hike up a path the last 250′ to the top. So, my friend and I motor up to the top, I get out of the car, and walk about 10 steps before gasping for air. I tried making it to the top, and did not get close. This was depressing – we had moved back to Denver during COVID, and we both walked up to the top without any problems – this was 2 weeks after I had heart surgery.

    On top of Mt Evans, 14,240’ after heart surgery (me, not my wife)

    We gave up on the summit, which I did not really care about, and I staggered around for a while photographing the friendly Mountain Goats for a while. That’s all I really wanted to do anyway. I also decided that maybe I should spend some time at a lower elevation for a while, before heading up to the high country again. Good idea.

    Mt Goat on Mt Evans/Bluesky

    Colorado has a number of great state parks along the foothills, all at more reasonable altitudes (6000′ or so), and I focused on these for a few days. Roxborough State Park has stunning vista’s, with large formations of red sandstone. Lots of nice, long, relatively easy trails to wander around (as in parents with strollers….I have no pride). I also spent a nice day in Castlewood Canyon, a bit higher up, with trails meandering along cliffs and down into a shaded river canyon. 

    Castlewood Canyon
    Stairway path to canyon floor
    Roxborough State Park
    Long trail in Roxborough Park
    Notice the climber (arrow)

    To cap off my altitude stamina training, my next hike was to a park which brought back some not so great memories from my rock climbing days – Eldorado State Park. Gorgeous place – this was my rock climbing hangout when I was into that crazy stuff. It’s also where I had to be rescued after a disasterous fall one pleasant summer afternoon….picture Clint Eastwood in the Eiger Sanction.

    So, after a week of training, I was ready to try my luck at over 10K again. Off to Rocky Mountain National Park, and Trail Ridge Road. RMNP is still one of my favorite parks, even if like most other National Parks, you have to buy passes for a specific time period during peak travel months. It has just about everything – peak climbing (Longs Peak…14K), rock climbing, various level of trails for hikers, and the highest continuous road in the lower 48. It also has great wildlife viewing, with a bighorn sheep, deer, elk and moose wandering around in different parts of the park. I have done quite a few peaks climbs in RMNP, and my wife and I used to go there frequently, just for light hiking and wildlife viewing.

    So, now that I was (hopefully) acclimated to altitude once again, I headed off with my friend to do a few short hikes at 10K. It was a cloudy, drizzly and cold day – but worth it for the views. Nothing major in terms of hikes, but it was nice to be able to make it up some of the short tourist walks at 11,000′ without coughing up a lung or two.

    Longs Peak – been to the top of that
    Hoodoos along Trail Ridge Road RMNP

    This was a comfortable trip for me, given my mental condition. I was staying with close friends, in a place I was intimately familiar with. No surprises here. It was a great trip all around – I discovered that being outdoors, hiking on trails, taking photographs, was a happy place for me – I was able to focus on the tasks at hand, a needed respite from what I’d been going through the past year. I understood now, why many widows/widowers adopted a travel lifestyle, and decided this too was my future.