I have made an effort the past few years since I started this blog, to avoid going too deeply into the Widower half of the title. Unfortunately, you cannot run away from grief, and there are always moments in every trip where it hits hard, usually when I start wishing my wife were enjoying some incredibly beautiful scenery with me. So, once in a while, I do write a post about what runs through my mind when I’m in some far away place during a holiday, or a wedding anniversary or my wife’s birthday. I also write about what it’s like traveling solo, living alone, and sometime reflect on what the future might hold for me…where is that darn crystal ball.
Another One of “Those” Days – Wedding Aniversaries, Birthdays and Grieving
The author reflects on the impending anniversary of their 51st wedding day, poignantly remembering their late spouse, Jan, who passed away before reaching their 49th anniversary. The narrative explores their shared experiences, the therapeutic nature of journaling during grief, and the author’s desire to honor Jan’s memory while navigating life alone.
Two Years as a Traveling Widower
On July 24, 2026, I reflect on my upcoming trip to Denver, not just for shopping but to reconnect with friends. After two years of solo travel following Jan’s passing, I’ve adapted to new experiences and social interactions. This trip is about friendship and relaxation before my next adventures in exotic locations.
In Memory Of
On the second anniversary of his wife’s passing, the author reflects on his grief and the impact of her death from Glioblastoma. Photography and travel serve as his coping mechanisms, providing joy amid sorrow. He invites friends to remember her fondly, emphasizing the importance of connection and remembrance.
Two Years Changes Everything
On January 13, 2026, the author reflects on the loneliness of aging, contrasting this year’s birthday with happier times two years prior when his wife, despite her illness, celebrated with him. Now, with many loved ones gone, he finds solace in travel, enjoying moments with friends while accepting the need to overlook his birthday.
2025 Year End Review – One Full Year Alone
As 2025 ends, the author reflects on their first full year of grieving the loss of Jan, their soul mate. While struggling with emotional turmoil, they found solace in travel, photography, and blogging. Planning future adventures, the author aims to embrace life despite ongoing grief, appreciating the memories while acknowledging the pain.
Some thoughts on down-sizing
The author reflects on their solitary time at home, expressing thoughts through journaling. They note a new blog subscriber who inspires them to write about downsizing possessions, a topic they recently explored. While contemplating sharing their personal insights, they maintain a lighthearted approach, teasing future travel-related posts.
In Search of the Good Life
The post humorously reveals it isn’t about photographing wild turkeys but serves as a link to the author’s journal. The journal contains reflections on grief and life decisions. The author acknowledges limited interest in their writings but hopes to entice readers with significant entries by providing direct links.
50th Anniversary – Would have been wonderful
Today would have been our 50th wedding anniversary. It should have been an incredible, joyous occasion for my wife and I, celebrated with a great dinner, fantastic wine, most likely someplace far away – probably Morocco. Instead, I’m sitting in a bar at the Hilton Hotel in Scott’s Valley, by myself, after a day of…
What Drives Me: Where I travel & why
The author reflects on their diverse travel experiences, driven by interests in photography, nature, and personal comfort. Trips have ranged from Alaska’s wildlife to the geology of Iceland, selecting destinations for enjoyment and fascination. As they age, they prioritize fun, reasonable adventures, and creature comforts over strenuous activities.
Trip Planning for 2026
The author reflects on feeling burned out from solo travel after several trips and grapples with the emotional weight of an upcoming anniversary. While planning for future adventures, including ambitious trips like an African safari, they prioritize experiences that honor memories with their late spouse, combining adventure with personal growth and exploration.
Scouring Spotted Spurge – gardening, a widowers hobby
The author shares reflections on their journey through grief after losing their wife, Jan. They express a newfound connection to gardening as a form of relaxation and socialization, particularly through volunteering at their church’s garden. The author also hints at upcoming travel adventures, looking forward to exploring new locations.